For Cait, mijn Kippetje xxx
Let's face it, some things are better with someone at your side, more specifically a best friend. Call 'em what you like: bestie, BFF, sister or even soulmate; life is better with one to share precious moments with.
I grew up being an only child, and it can get so lonely sometimes without siblings by your side. Although I always had pets, and yes I did talk to them (I still sometimes do), they could only blankly starts back as I told them about life's problems and asked them about why Jimmy didn't like me back when I was in third grade. I drifted from friend groups often in primary school and early in high school, always looking for something, but not quite knowing what. And then I found her - my best friend. I can't pinpoint exactly when we became besties, but it just sort of happened and I am so glad for it, because being someone who has trust issues this means that I can really confide in one person and I know for a fact it will never go further than her.
1. Sharing everything
We share everything, seriously EVERYTHING. From awkward stories (often involving weird dreams and the hook-up we can't quite remember), habits, baths, clothes, secrets.... and even something I never share with anyone else: food. We basically live at each other's house, I'm at her's one weekend and she's at mine the next; so for us to be separated for a couple days is an absolute monstrosity. Her mom is my mom and my mom is hers, and when we go to each other's house, we call it our own.
2. Having someone to trust
I think the best thing about having someone so close is that you can always count on them. I know that she's always there if I need her and vice versa. I feel like it's often more comforting to sit in silence with my bestie on a shitty day where we don't say anything for hours, just sit; than crying on your mother's shoulder. Silence is often golden, but when words are needed she knows exactly what to say to me to cheer me up, and I hope I do the same for her.
3. The weird 6th sense
The other thing is the 'best friend 6th sense', and I'm being serious on this one. We say things at the same time, or I will be thinking something and a second before I blurt it out, she does! I might be on the phone about to call, and she'll message me on whatsapp saying: "phone call?". Sometimes I feel like she knows me better than I know myself.
4. Brutal, but well received honesty
The honesty we have with each other is also very securing. If she's wearing something that doesn't match , I'll tell her and when my makeup is looking ratchet as hell she'll tell me to fix it. I love that brutal honesty because I hate it when people are fake or too scared to tell you something doesn't look nice, or that they don't like the way you're acting - so you can change that and not irk them any longer.
5. Inventions and ideas
We often sit together, and when we get bored we come up with the stupidest things - ideas anyone else would laugh at and brush off. We once invented a toilet bed, so you could sleep and pee at the same time without having to walk to the bathroom once you're comfortable under the covers. I don't know anyone else who would have suggested that or gone along with the plan with the utmost enthusiasm. Also I once invented shoes with wheels, and was informed by the best friend that I had invented roller blades, so invention time is always a winner. She'll never laugh at my dreams and we can come up with the weirdest plans for how our lives will pan out.
6. No judgements
We judge each other on nothing and I have no hesitation when I am about to tell her something 'deep' or 'personal'.
7. Big pig-out nights
Although I eat corn and sugar free mostly, some nights we decide to have to all too wonderful pig out, and when we do something we do it properly. Pizza, Oreos, Ice-cream, Chocolate, popcorn are the standard once a month(ish) cheat meal. Oh and don't forget pancakes or waffles and hot chocolate for breakfast.
8. The humour
I can look at my best friend from across a room and we will both burst out laughing, even though we haven't even said anything yet. Eye contact has often been a form of communication. We know our inside jokes so well, that if one of us says "Remember that time you..." and without continuing we'll know EXACTLY what the other was talking about just by the way they said it. Oh and the innuendo. Anything a teacher/ friend/ parent says that could slightly imply a sexual or dirty tone, we'' pick up and laugh about for the next 5 minutes without feeling judged because of our immature humour!
9. Road trippin'
Travel is 100% better when you have your best friend right next to you in a packed car and you have a long road ahead. Sometimes you don't even need music, because your conversation fills most of the time and silences are never awkward or boring. Taking naps in the car ad watching movies on the laptop is a given, as long as there's popcorn to go with it. Running out at the petrol station to go to the bathroom together - as all girls do, and stocking up on junk food for the drive is the best. Plus you get cool instagram photo opportunities out of it all and basking in the wonder of nature is so much better when there's someone there to appreciate it with you.
10. You get an extra set of pets and parents
I don't really see her family as separate from mine anymore. Her parents are my parents, and I have the same love for her pets as mine. Being part of each other's family is awesome and it means we understand exactly what the other means by "ugh my mom is annoying me today" or "you know when my dog is all cute and does that thing with his nose?". I love my second family, and all their wonderful quirks.