So, let's face it. Essena Oniell has gotten some MAJOR attention over the past week because of a viral video slashing social media and how damaging it is for the world and people's well being. I must say, for the most part, I really disagree with this statement. I do understand that cyber bullying is very traumatic and it can lead people to believe untrue things about herself, but that's not what Essena was talking about in her video.
I feel like Essana has put social media in such a negative light and let's not forget that she has bashed social media using social media. Here are a few pints I feel the former Instagram model may have overlooked:
The most obvious and clichéd point would be that it keeps you connected. Yes I know you have heard this 1001 times, but really I don't know how I would have kept in touch with international friends otherwise. I have friends in America, England, Australia and even friends who just live out of town that are more than an hour away. Let's be honest, nobody wants to keep up with a weekly bill from international phone calls, you will soon be out of pocket.
Without Social media I would have never had a voice. I have always felt like I wanted to express my opinion in a safe, anonymous space like a blog because it allows me to put my thoughts onto virtual paper and maybe it could gather people's attention with the same opinion so that they feel they are not alone in their thought processes. It has also allowed me to share my photography with the world, and although I'm not a famous blogger or whatever I still feel like it counts to put my work out there and make a small creative impact and hopefully some people will consider photography too, because you can really do amazing things with a lens and some photoshop.
I have also gained an IMMENSE general knowledge about a lot of nothing. Although this may sound useless, its not. Ever since I started clicking on those sciencey, factual articles that my friends have shared I have found that I always have something to talk about. It makes you better at conversing with people because you feel confident in something you know a little about and maybe that person has something to add to your knowledge.
Without social media I would have never discovered Kayla Itsines. I don't like to say I have Idols, or Heroes; because I like to think that I should aspire to be the best version of myself, but I can certainly look up to her. She posts so many inspiring messages everyday and it makes you feel like you are capable of so much more than you knew. The BBG community is so supportive and is a really good example of how social media can improve your mental wellbeing. Without her motivational tips and little jokes and quirky posts I would have never taken such a drastic step in changing my diet and health so that I am happy and healthy and I have reached so many goals through her workout program.(I'm already on week 28!).
I feel like social media is really what you make it, it sounds so corny I know, but it's very true. If you decide to base your success on the amount of likes/favourites/shares/regrams/comments/followers you have, you will be so unhappy because it will never ever be enough. I base my success on my happiness and how proud I am of certain blog posts or how satisfied I am after doing an awesome photoshoot. If you take money and promote products on your page that you may not even like, you will feel like you are living a lie, because you are and you aren't giving yourself room to be yourself. I love putting effort into how my feeds look and trying to be creative with my site, and if you don't like my feed themes or my site, I don't really care all that much because I'm happy with it and that's all that matters. If other people do as well, that's great, but if not it won't change anything for me.
Hope this gave you some food for thought!:)
Until the next post lovelies <3
-The traveling oyster
P.S. If you are being cyberbullies and need help, this is a great website you can go to:http://www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/ or you can phone your local suicide hotline.